Did you know that 11% of men and 16% of women in Canada will experience major depression in their lifetime (Source: https://www.canada.ca)
If that’s the case, then awareness becomes one of our most powerful tools – because knowing what depression really is (and what it’s not) can be the first step to healing.

At Therapy Villa, we meet many adults who delay therapy for depression. Not because they don’t want to get better, but because myths, shame, or misconceptions keep them from reaching out. Let’s untangle those myths today, so you – or someone you love – can take that step toward support without hesitation.

What Is Depression?

Depression is more than just feeling low. It’s a persistent state of sadness or emptiness that interferes with daily life. It can be triggered by a mix of genetic, psychological, and environmental factors – from financial hardship  and illness to grief, trauma, or family history.

It impacts how you think, feel, and act, coloring your world with hopelessness, exhaustion, or disconnection.

What Depression is Not

  • It’s not a weakness of character.
  • It’s not an indulgence in self-pity.
  • It doesn’t mean you’re “broken.”

It’s a medical condition, much like diabetes or heart disease, and it deserves the same seriousness and care.

Common Myths That Keep Adults from Seeking Help

Myth 1: “If I stay busy, I’ll snap out of it.”

Keeping busy might distract you from sadness for a while, but depression isn’t something you can outwork. In fact, overworking is sometimes a symptom of depression – especially in men. Healing requires more than distraction; it needs self care, rest, some consideration and  therapy can be a space where you can reflect and acquire some tools to manage better.

Myth 2: “It’s just a phase. It’ll pass.”

Depression is not the same as sadness. Scientific research shows that depression disrupts the brain’s nerve circuits that regulate mood. Without treatment, symptoms often persist or worsen.

Myth 3: “Depression is just self-pity.”

Society tends to admire the “tough ones” and dismiss others as “wallowing.” But depression isn’t weakness. The strongest, most resilient people can experience it. It’s a condition  that needs support, not judgment.

Myth 4: “If I start treatment, I’ll be on meds for life.”

Medication is one tool, and it’s not always necessary. Many people benefit from psychotherapy alone. For others, medication is temporary and adjusted over time. Avoiding care altogether only prolongs suffering.

Myth 5: “Depressed people cry all the time.”

Not true. Some mask their sadness with humor. Others feel numb, detached, or simply “blank.” Depression isn’t always outwardly visible – it’s about how it limits your ability to live fully.

Myth 6: “Depression only affects older people.”

Depression can strike at any age. In fact, it often first appears in the late teens or mid-20s. According to a 2023 national survey, nearly 30% of adults in Canada have been diagnosed at some point, with women and young adults more likely to be affected.

Myth 7: “Talking about it makes things worse.”

Opening up doesn’t feed negativity. Talking to a therapist helps you understand triggers, reframe thoughts, and develop coping strategies. It’s not being “stuck in the past” – it’s choosing to step into a healthier future.

The Truth? You Deserve Support.

Depression requires your attention and it’s also treatable. The hardest step is often the first: reaching out.

At Therapy Villa, we know how heavy it feels to live with depression – and how brave it is to ask for help. If you’ve been struggling with low mood, exhaustion, or the sense that you’re just “going through the motions,” let’s talk. We’ll meet you where you are and walk with you toward where you want to be.

You don’t have to fight this battle alone. Healing is possible – and you are worthy of it.

So, just reach out and schedule a free consultation today. Whether you’re seeking a mental health therapist in Ontario or adult therapy Toronto, whether you need someone to talk to or someone to not coax those words out just yet – at Therapy Villa, we’ll match our pace to yours – always.